Lessons I learned from my doctor dad – Rph at work – Guest post week # 5

Lessons I learned from my doctor dad – Rph at work – Guest post week # 5

Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.

There are a lot of people in my life who had great influence on who I am. I had this amazing instructor in my high school who would teach me science and he became an instant hero. I always wondered how did he know everything about this world. This really pushed me towards pursuing career in science field. But the most influential person in my life would hands down be my dad. He is the most honest and hardworking

man I have ever known. My dad was born in a lower middle class family in India. Despite of hardships and struggles he aspired to be better and always dream’t about having better condition for his own family. He worked hard to achieve his dreams and eventually became doctor. Trust me this was  huge achievement, he was the first among a huge family and in-fact the whole surrounding society to become a doctor. So there came the first lesson for me. Work hard and you can achieve whatever you want.

My dad is a doctor, he would come home very late night for dinner. He would sit with us at the dinner table and would talk to us about what is going on in our life. He would never dwell upon his work trouble or how tired is he after a long day’s work. Sometimes he would go back to hospital to check upon patients or for an emergency. Until I was about 10 I would sometime tag along with him to hospital. After a while I became sick

of the smell and chaos with all those pain in a hospital, so I stopped going. One day I told my dad, I don’t want to become a doctor, this was huge back then. Every doctor’s son/daughter was expected to become one. My father looked at me with little anxiousness and calmly said you can do whatever you want to do. This was the biggest lesson he gave me. Do whatever you want to do.

My father was a loving and compassionate person. He was kind to people around him, he love me mom very much as well. He would take care of her and would support her with career and her work related stuff. I had never seen anybody love someone like he used to love my mom, a very

special relationship. There were some tough moments in their relationship but they got through them by talking. Sometime they would even fight for pity things, but make up soon. This was a huge lessons in my marriage. After 5 years of marriage I know my dad’s lesson helped me grow my relationship with my husband. We have fought but we always make up. We work hard to grow and nurture our relationship. So my dad lesson that be loving and caring in your relationships was highly influential on me.

I am really lucky to have such a wonderful parents. They were very supportive and encouraging in whatever I did. When I look back on the path I’ve taken in my life, these one liner lessons have had great influence on which direction I took. My dad had this magical sense of timing about when to give those lessons. Love you dad.

To about my life please visit me at Rph at work.

Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.

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