Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.
Dads who have dads and are dads too need to strike a balance when it comes to managing their time with their own family and their dads extended family. This is a unique situation where it can benefit the family as a whole because of the tremendous of wisdom that the children are exposed to or it can be a source of feud between the wife and the husband. Every woman is possessive in most cases and in case she finds her husband constantly ignoring her and her children and the husband is busy serving his father all the time for whatever reason, it is a source of constant bickering among couples who find themselves either separated, children stranded or with strained relationships with their spouses.
The kids also crave for attention in these families as they want their dad to spend time with them and not with their grandfathers. The kids also sometimes are annoyed by the constant advice of their grandfather who might be imposing his will on the kids and reckoning the fact that this generation X and Y are so rebellious, the family might find it self-seething with quarrels and fights over who has what authority. Some of these dads look up to their fathers for decision making and show signs of weakness which in turn might not go down well with the spouse.
Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.