Temper tantrum

Temper tantrum

Here’s another story of a mother who couldn’t control her kid and thought the blogosphere should know about it.

It reads kind of like a rant or a pity party.

Yesterday, I gave my advice for dealing with kids and temper tantrums. And if that advice doesn’t work, then do increase the dosage.

But in the article I read today the point was not that she was having issues with her kids but that she was having issues with somebody offering her advice that she didn’t ask for. That’s called unsolvable advice. (Ed: unsolicited advice)

Some lady out of the blue (actually it was a grocery store) followed the mommy out of the store and made her feel small because of how she handled or mishandled her children.

Uncool. The rule of giving advice if you feel you absolutely must is to offer encouragement. Say something positive.

My daddy is good at this. He is a real encourager. He says it’s fun to make other people feel good.

Yesterday at Panera, he works there sometimes, he saw a couple (daddy was white guy and wife was Asian) with three kids, all under 3. The kids were very well-behaved and the 5-some were enjoying their dinner.

“You guys seem to be doing a great job with your kids. Whatever it is you are doing, keep it up.”

Then daddy left.

Why is it that some families have very well-behaved kids and others don’t?

What’s different? Bad genes? The luck of the kid draw?

Here again is my advice for dealing with temper tantrums, even you didn’t ask for it.

Merchant in Aladdin

Merchant in Aladdin

“Like so many things, it is not what’s on the outside, but inside that counts.” – Merchant, Aladdin

It is not always the wise king, the guru, the monk, the student or the man/woman in the ivory tower who has learned a great lesson.

Sometimes it is the man or woman on the street.

We don’t always learn the best lessons when we are in school or at work or in the laboratory.

Sometimes we learn lessons on the street.

The lesson that the merchant in Aladdin is teaching is echoed in the Bible in a different way.

The merchant simply says that it’s what inside that counts. It’s the character of the person that matters, not just their appearance.

When Samuel was looking for a king seven times he picked the wrong person. He chose warriors, good looking people, popular people.

But God told him, “Man looks on the outward appearance, but God looks on the heart.”

God is saying that it’s not the outside that matters. It’s the inside. It’s the heart.

I want to be a person of strong character. I want my character to be so strong that it oozes out to my outward appearance, too.

I want people to be able to see me and know what’s in my heart.

 

I live in Silicon Valley, near San Jose. (Yes, we know the way. Daddy always makes me say that. I don’t know why.)

There are a lot of Asians in Silicon Valley.

Indians might be the largest group. Chinese are the second largest. There are a lot of Chinese Americans. I am one of them.

Naturally I am interested in Silicon Valley. So, from time to time I will tell you some things I know or have learned from my daddy. He gets invited to go on cruise ships to speak about these things.

Here’s a quiz for you.

Which of these 11 inventions happened in Silicon Valley?

  1. Transistor
  2. Integrated circuit
  3. PC
  4. Internet
  5. WWW
  6. Browser
  7. Biotech
  8. Greentech
  9. Social Networks
  10. Smartphone
  11. Search Engine

The answer is …

 

Famous Companies in Silicon Valley

Famous Companies in Silicon Valley

none of them.

Where were these 11 inventions created?

  1. Transistor – France
  2. Integrated circuit – Germany/Britain
  3. PC – Germany
  4. Internet – UK
  5. WWW – France
  6. Browser – France
  7. Biotech – Who knows?
  8. Greentech – Who knows?
  9. Social Networks – 1800s
  10. Smartphone – Sweden
  11. Search Engine – Montreal

There probably are things that were invented in Silicon Valley – Twitter, Pinterest – but generally people bring their good ideas to the Valley and that’s where they take off.

It’s called catching a cold. (Ed. going viral).

Silicon Valley is a great place to grow up … and not just for Chinese-Americans.

 

 
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Is teaching a child to be tactful, kind, the same as telling them to lie?

I trust my daddy. I really do.

But, sometimes I don’t understand why he asks me to do something that is different than what he usually tells me to do.

Daddy tells me to not lie.

And I don’t.

But once, my friend gave me a present for Christmas. And I didn’t like it. I thought it was a present for a boy.

“I don’t want this. I don’t like this. It’s for a boy.”

Daddy got pretty upset.

He took me to my room and talked a lot. I don’t remember much. But I do remember I didn’t get to be honest.

He told me I should tell my friend thank you for the present.

More: $2.6 Million for an Electronic Baby Sitter!!

He didn’t say I had to tell them I liked it. But I should tell her, ‘thank you.’

But she didn’t like it either. I bet she got that present from someone else and didn’t like it, so she found a chance to wrap it up and give it someone else … me.

I don’t know.

Daddy says that when people show us kindness, give us gifts, we should show them appreciation.

What I want to know is, when can I tell people exactly what I think? When should I be quiet? And when should I just be ‘nice?’

And isn’t being honest being nice?

Can somebody help me out here?

Comments, please?

Oh, and Stephanie asks “Is it ever okay to lie to a parent?”

By the way – that image? That’s a book I wrote called By Cows Who Chew Lilies. <= take a look?

Maybe you’d like to read it sometime.